I just had a friend over for coffee (well, actually we had tea) and pancakes (have I told you I make good pancakes?).
It was very unsatisfying and I just figured out why - we spoke about her the entire time.
Oh, except for right at the beginning when I let her in because I told her the kids had just gone to sleep and told her a little bit of the drama.
Okay, I'll tell you too.
D usually arrives at 6 or just thereafter but these days because the babies are so cute, he's been leaving on time and getting home about 5 minutes before 6.
The babies are now used to it and will not sleep til he is home and they have played.
Today he went to get nappies on the way home and didn't get home til 6:30.
I'd just gone back in to quieten them again as they were jumping around like crazy people when we all heard the gate.
K pops up, saying, "Daddy?" and C starts wailing, "Daddy! Daddy! Daddy!" as if I'm keeping him prisoner.
I hauled him out of his cot (I can't stand the screaming, remember?) and took him to D who was just coming through the door.
Tears streaming down his face, he leapt into D's very full arms.
So they played for another 15 mins with Daddy and then went to sleep.... 45 minutes later than actual bed time.
Anyway, don't you hate that?
I just hate when conversations are one-sided. In fact, it's one of my pet peeves.
I asked D when he got home from gym, "am I really the most boring person ever?" He says no :)
Then, still talking about connecting...
Last week I read The Most Fantastic Blog Post Ever (I won't link because I commented under my whole, full name) about social media.
Julia, I will send it to you though :)
The one thing that stood out to me was this - the reason some of us squander time on Facebook/ Twitter/ blogs (for me, it's blogs) is because something is happening in our real lives .
We may be avoiding something. We may be feeling insecure and need validation from others.
And then, this one was for me...we may be trying to find connection because we're not connecting with others enough during the day.
That bit jumped out at me and bit me on the bum.
That is exactly me - I am not getting all I need in terms of connection (one of my top 5 values is connection) so I try to fill this void through my crazy obsession with blogging, commenting on blogs, etc.
If you don't comment, I suppose you have a deep need to be a voyeur in someone's life :)
Hmmm - does that resonate with anyone?
And about my friend, what would you do?
Just leave it and accept that this is a one-sided conversation, or what? It does happen often.
Thing is, she is good about being there for you if you need something. If I need her, she will be there.
- When the babies were still little, she brought us food one night because we were so tired.
- For my first media thing (magazine story), she was there helping me with hair/ make-up/ clothes, etc.
- She collects mail when we're on holiday.
Please tell me about some of your friendship issues!
