{Friendship Friday} How do you go from friends to best friends?

 

I must tell you about last Saturday before we dive into today's topic.

My boss, a supplier/ vendor who has since become a friend and I all have kids the same age. They all share birthdays within two months of each other and we've been saying we should have a playdate.

I made the date at my favourite Bambanani but then 3 of the 5 kids were sick that Saturday. So it was rescheduled to last Saturday.

Boss pulled out at the last minute in view of something at Sandton City (remember my vow to not go near that place again this holiday season?) and I told the other person that if he (S) was game, the two our families should still do it.

So we did. He invited us over to his house and it was glorious.

We arrived and I rushed to the loo with K. When we joined the others again, Connor was on J's lap (the wife) eating pancakes. The boy was in heaven!

I always suspected I might like her - she did his client gifts last year and Boss and I got a HUGE glass jar of delicious biscuits wrapped with cute ribbon and a nice gift tag - you know, the way I do things. I also follow her on instagram and she has a gorgeous eye. She sees beauty in the small things too.

And after Saturday, I really really love like her. She shares a lot of my parenting philosophies but is a lot more of a fun mom. I already like him and we work together beautifully.

we both have red kettles :)

Their child is just gorgeous and clever and plays nicely with mine. D and S are both creative types - I don't think they stopped talking the entire afternoon.

The afternoon was full of flow and ease and just lovely. D got along well with both of them too, and she was wonderful with my kids. They told me as we left "that was a lovely visit, Mummy" and that they both want to sit on Aunty J's lap when they come visit us :)

Which I will be arranging pronto :)

So that was a lovely, unexpected surprise couple date which turned out really, really well. We were actually tempted to skip Carols by Candlelight and were an hour late because no-one wanted to leave.

Now onto this week's topic.

How do you go from friends to best friends?

The truthful answer is I don't know. It's never happened to me.

When I was at school, there were three of us who were, I suppose, best friends but it was not at all intentional and I can't even remember how it happened. Two of us were closer at first because we'd come from the same primary school, but then they also had a special something-something because they lived near each other and would walk part of the way home together.

Remember the days when we walked to and from school?! 

At university, I had one really close friend. A best friend for me but I knew I wasn't hers. I was about 1 of 3, the other 2 were in her home town.

So really, there's nobody I'm best friends with, except D. I have lots of friends and some I am closer to for certain things. If I'm going through x, I first want to share those with Friend A and B, if I'm going through y, with Friend C and D.

But there is no one friend that is all that to me, except D. :)

In my mind, I think to make a transition from friends to best friends, one would need chemistry, reciprocal effort and lots of vulnerability from both parties.

What do you think?
Have you ever started out as friends with someone and become best friends? Tell me how that happened and was it equal from both sides?