When I've been in a funk, some of my well-meaning friends have said, "oh, you need a massage or some retail therapy" and while that's nice for the moment, it just doesn't do it for me.
This is why.
What works for me is that I actually need to stop, examine my life and see what's REALLY going on.
What works for you?
Did you like that blog post?
PS by a strange coincidence, I'm actually going for my first massage of the year today :)
You have a point. Retail therapy or massages are just for that short period of time. The way you do is the correct way. I too do it like that. Stopping and re-evaluating everything around me, is the only way I can see what's going on and where I need to go from here.
ReplyDeleteOh I love that blogpost - I have immediately subscribed to her feed. Nurture yes! I feel that the Happiness project has learned me a lot about nurtuing yourself - examining what makes you happy but also how to get on track when you are not. For me writing help - bne it in my head, in my journal or on the blog. And time alone to just be.
ReplyDeleteI guess it depends on what's driving my funk. Most of my "funks" are driven by just needing a break, and a change of scenery is usually really good for me.
ReplyDeleteOf course I couldn't come to that conclusion if I didn't do at least a little reflecting.
Will read the article this afternoon! :)
And ENJOY your massage!!! I have one scheduled in a couple of weeks, but I just signed the girls up for swimming lessons, and I'm going to have to reschedule it. I hope it won't take me too long to get back in! I've been looking forward to it for a long time!
I adore that blog post. I really need to do exactly what she is saying she did. Glad I got this right before I ran to the cafeteria to get my lunch. I didn't have time to pack it today. I will go get a salad!
ReplyDeleteI LOVED that blog post. Thank you for sending it to me when you did.
ReplyDeleteWhen I get to that point it means that I need to go back to basics.
Basics for me = eating healthy and wholesome meals, drinking lots of water, exercise (preferably yoga) or even hard exercise like bootcamp (which I hate – btw that’s why I keep going back – BC keeps my depro at bay) and getting enough sleep.
Also, it means that I need to slow down.
Slow down for me = getting off my computer (especially on the weekends), planning my life better so that I never need to rush, not procrastinating, JUST BEING STILL (even if it means watching mindless TV or sitting outside in the sun and doing some people-watching) and not trying to fill my time with STUFF and even PEOPLE.
Slow down for me = getting rid of NOISE i.e. social media and even radio if necessary. Slow down for me = going OUTSIDE of my four walls i.e. into the garden or for a walk.
It also means that I need more touch. So I hug more, snuggle more, kiss more and and and.
And it means that I need to write. Like in a notebook. Using a pen and my own handwriting. NOT a computer.
It also means that I need to pray. Seriously. This helps A LOT. Can’t believe I didn’t discover this earlier.
I hope that you had a great massage. I again forgot to budget and schedule it for this month. Am planning one on my B-Day at the holiday place that we’re going to. MUST sort it out on Monday when I get home.
Love it! Love it!
ReplyDeleteThis is exactly where I am and what I need to be doing. I am so guilty of avoiding life! This is precisely why I am finally quitting, to focus on me.
When I'm feeling a bit meh I love to take some me-time and just go for a walk in the botanical gardens (possibly with chocolate) and switch my phone off. I don't get to do that anymore, so now I find a nice long nap really does my mood a lot of good, or a really hot bath - best results if I can have both! But it takes some organising to find the time.
ReplyDeleteOK...just read that post. Thank you for sharing it.
ReplyDeleteI've really been thinking a lot about the "Hands-Free Movement" over the past two weeks (the "How to Miss a Childhood" post). In just two weeks, I've honestly seen big changes in my world. In some ways, this post falls in line with that.
I'm starring this post, too. I just kinda feel like I'm beginning to reach "something" -- not totally sure what yet -- but it's a good thing.
More to come, I promise. :) :)